How Not To Deal With People
Normally I don’t mention names in my blog entries, but this time it warrants it. A while I ago, I was contacted by someone at Networking One South Florida (http://www.networkingonesoflorida.com/) by the name of Don C. Meyer.
After some discussion about his websites being redesigned, he offered me a membership in his Network One South Florida and Dining Entertainment Club networking groups. About a week into it, I started receiving mailings for networking parties and requests to join his affiliate program for Networking One South Florida, Spring Break South Florida, and Dining Entertainment Club. I never utilized either because I became too busy and it seemed that Mr. Meyer couldn’t get himself situated.
Many times I just disregarded the messages, however, after about 3 months of being on the list, I found I had been subscribed to yet another list for a singles cruise and another from an adult club in south Florida. I didn’t catch it at the time, but Mr. Meyer used the ‘Cc’ field to send out his newsletter.
I only figured it out because one of the mailings looked suspiciously like his Networking One South Florida mailing list. So I checked the headers, and sure enough both of the new mailings were sent by people on Don C. Meyer’s email list.
I emailed Mr. Meyer to remove my email address from his newsletter twice before I went ahead and forwarded his message to AOL’s abuse department and his response? He took a sarcastic tone and asked how he got my email address?
Because of his email list, my email address was exposed to over 100 other strangers (over 200 if you count the other email lists I found myself subscribed to), 2 (possibly more) were unscrupulous enough to mine it and place my personal email address on their mailing lists. And not surprisingly, the number of spam messages I received to the account increased.
In nearly 2 years, I barely received a total of 5 spam message (yes, in that entire two year time frame) - however, after being on Mr. Meyer’s email list, the number of spam increased to about 5 per day. That may not be much to some people, but it’s a large enough increase to be noticeable and it can easily be traced back to Don Meyer’s list.
After I responded and let Mr. Meyer know about the fact that he violated the email privacy of his entire list and that if someone requests to be removed, they should be promptly removed without question, he responded with:
You are unsubscribed. Get a life!
Polite huh? I would never, in a million years, take that tone with any of my clients or email list subscribers and if you run a website, email list, or business - you probably shouldn’t either.
I would never do business with someone like that or recommend them to anyone. So, take a lesson from Mr. Don C. Meyer, treat everyone you come across with respect.
At this point, I wish I’d never met Mr. Meyer or heard of Networking One South Florida, because it would mean I wouldn’t have any spam and I wouldn’t have to deal with rude people.
Okay, I’ve finished ranting. Thank you for listening. But am I wrong for being pissed?


Sarcasmom wrote,
Was that a personal comment to you or is that how he responds to anyone requesting to unsubscribe? Michele sent me.
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 8:50 pmteli wrote,
You’ve got me, but I hope he doesn’t respond to anyone who requests to be unsubscribed in this manner. It’s simply unprofessional.
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 8:57 pmOreo wrote,
Nope, I’d be mad too!! You want me to come bite & scratch him for you? Here from Michele’s.
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 8:58 pmYaeli wrote,
You go!!! He totally deserves every bit of ranting you direct at him. He sounds like a very rude and irresponsible business manager. I’m sure there are privacy laws regarding the selling or passing on of e-mail lists to companies other than the one you subscribed to. You could always report him to the Department of fair trading or whatever you guys have in the states. :o)
Michele sent me.
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 9:14 pmlisa wrote,
I’d be annoyed too, and I’d out him on my blog for being totally unprofessional. Especially when he gave you ‘tude.
Michele sent me.
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 9:52 pmCarmi wrote,
He sounds like a complete moron, and you’re absolutely justified for exposing him like the fraud that he is.
My coping strategy is to use web-based e-mail addresses. I use ‘em to sign up for stuff, then abandon them when they become spam-choked. Some of the newer services - Google Mail and Yahoo, specifically - allow auto-forwarding. So I never have to log into any additional accounts.
Dropped in from Michele’s. Glad I did: your site is wonderful!
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 9:54 pmteli wrote,
@oreo: violence is never the answer, no matter how much we are tempted
@Yaeli: I was thinking about it too - I think it would be the FTC, but I’m not that mean and evil. Outing him on my blog was enough for me.
@lisa: That was the reason I decided to blog it. I would have left it alone if he offered an apology and removed my email from his list - instead he decides to be snarky like I did something wrong.
@Carmi: I was trying to be polite, but the same sentiment is there LOL. I usually use ‘throw-aways’ as well, that’s why I hardly received any spam, but he added my email to his list without my knowledge. I was wrong for not requesting it be removed after the very first mailing though, but I had no idea it would be this bad.
And thanks for the compliment - I’m going to be adding a bunch of new blogs to my blogroll for a while
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 10:25 pmDianeV wrote,
Nope, he’s a jerk — and an email spammer at that.
The fact that you gave him your email address for the purpose of discussing website redesign, or for use in the first(?) newsletter does not mean he has the right to subscribe you to any- and everything.
There are actually laws in place that deal with email spam. He should read them.
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 10:28 pmTom wrote,
What an idiot. I hope someone on his list gets mad enough to push him back
@Carmi- I generally sign up for things using the email address of whichever person has annoyed me the most lately…
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 10:30 pmteli wrote,
@DianeV: I was thinking the same thing too - I know I didn’t sign up for any mailing list and was surprised to receive his newsletter and I know I didn’t request to be included on the singles club or Miami Gold mailing list.
@Tom: I hope so too, but the sad fact is, most of the people on the mailing list probably don’t even know…how often do people actually read their mail headers? It seems that only those who were actually out to get the email addresses did…
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 10:39 pmkenju wrote,
Of course you arre justified in being pissed at him. What he did was uncalled for and very unprofessional. He deserves to be flamed all over the web.
Michele coaxed me this way.
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 11:15 pmcolleen wrote,
I’ve had a couple of people ruder than that…It always shocks me when they are. Hi from micheles.
Comment Link | October 22nd, 2005 at 11:33 pmDiana wrote,
Yah that is definitely unprofessional!! Sorry you have to deal with jerks…I am here from Michele’s!! TTYL
Comment Link | October 23rd, 2005 at 12:35 amLast Girl On Earth wrote,
I just a big long comment, but I don’t think it posted. ANYHOW… The basic jist was that you have every right to be upset with theis guy, and you have every right to ask to be taken off of an email list. Michele sent me, and I hope you are having a great weekend… WITH NO SPAM!
Comment Link | October 23rd, 2005 at 11:19 am